Ducky Diaries: Protect the warrior

Monday, April 14, 2014

Protect the warrior

 
You have a child with special needs. 
 
You are your child's warrior. 
 
This is not a question, but a fact.
 
You refuse to accept any accolade.
 

ac·co·lade

noun
1. any award, honor, or laudatory notice: The play received accolades from the press. 
 
2. a light touch on the shoulder with the flat side of the sword or formerly by an embrace, done in the ceremony of conferring knighthood.
 
3. the ceremony itself.
 
You refuse to accept any accolade, assistance, support, because you are just doing "what you have to".   Day in and day out. It is just life.  Your life. Your child's life.  You don't have time for a break. You have to fight. You have to keep going.
 
Your child doesn't have a voice so you need to be that voice. You need to be loud, swift, and unafraid.
 
There is no other choice.
 
And so you go and go and go forward, ever pushing forward.
 
Fighting, talking, reasoning, rationalizing, refusing to compromise for any less than what your child needs.
 
If you're anything like me, you're subsisting on coffee and a stray hot dog slice chased with a cheese curl.  And when you're feeling especially frisky, dinner is a Pepsi or an iced coffee.
 
Sound familiar?
 
Are you failing to protect your body?
 
A warrior cannot fight with a damaged body. 
 
A warrior cannot fight with a damaged mind. 
 
In complete honesty I need you to ask yourself. 
 
"Who are the members of my support team?"
 
How many people can you name? 
 
Do you trust them?
 
Can you share ANYTHING with them?
 
Do they help ease your burdens when you are overwhelmed?
 
As special needs parents, we fail daily. 
 
We fail to protect the most integral member of our child's team.
 
We're failing to protect ourselves.
 
The Warrior.
 
The Warrior needs their army.
 
 
 
My plea to you is to protect the warrior.  Get rest, fuel your body, meditate, go on a walk, take a break, most importantly, have a support team.  It is vital.   Talk to them.  Allow them to help.  Do not stand in their way and assure them that "I got this!".  Even if you do, you deserve a moment of peace.  
 
I literally cannot say it enough.
 
Support, support, SUPPORT TEAM.
 
You need one! 
 
You, Dear Warrior, need your army.
 
You will not win your fight without them.
 
 
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